i'm in a singles ward for the summer
(in my opinion this is very different than a student ward).
the average age i'd say is 25, 26...
i've been here 3 weeks and i'm already sick of the
ridiculous fixation on marriage and dating.
EVERY WEEK in the lessons, lack of marriage or lack of boyfriend
gets brought up in class after class with a prefix:
"i know everyone is thinking this, so i'm going to be
the one to say it. . ." then onto a rant about
the hardships and trials of single life.
i am sick of generalizations that EVERYONE is thinking that.
no... not me... not jessica... not sarah with an h... not mary....
to name just a few. i'm sure for the 30-year-old women in the ward
it truly is a hardship they think about day after day.
i'm not saying it's not a real thing to hurt about.
it's very real and painful, i'm sure.
but not all of us go to church to find an eternal companion.
not all of us enjoy attending the meet market
sunday meetings of the ysa world.
and not all of us are ready or even wanting
to get married any time soon.
the number one pull for activities:
"you might meet your future spouse there".
the number one push for home teaching:
"you might teach your future wife".
and what is this about asking the newly engaged
to give sermons from the pulpit about dating advice.
last time i checked it took them till they were 32 to find "the one"
and i didn't come to church to learn how to date
or hear any more "adorable" stories
about how during ward clean up
the love-struck couple met 3 months ago.
but most of all i didn't come to church to be told
i would meet my future husband
at a singles ward activity.
when i was younger,
i swore i would never attend a singles ward
for this very reason.
i will find my husband in the right time in the right place,
when we are both ready,
and when the Lord's timing is supposed to come to pass.
it's not the same for everyone and i believe it's not only inappropriate,
but extremely annoying
when couples stand at the pulpit and tell me to
"hang in there, if i can find a spouse in the singles ward, so can you."
{ vomit }
sometimes the singles ward makes me want to
SCREEEEEEAAAAAM
aaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.
Hahahahahahahahhahahah! I laughed. You are funny.
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